Love
In Marriage
Jarrod M. Jacobs
Last
week, we studied a little about love in marriage. Specifically, we began studying
what the Bible says about love from I Corinthians 13 and made applications to
the marriage relationship. Why write about this subject and remind men and
women of love in marriage? For one reason, it is because the Bible talks about
such things. Indeed, this ought to be reason enough for the one who respects
God’s word! Another reason for studying love in marriage, however, is because
of all the practical lessons we learn from marriage. Consider the following:
First,
those yet unmarried may look to married folks and realize that marriage is a
life-long proposition (Matt. 19:4-6; Rom. 7:1-2). Though it is filled with ups
and downs, people can make things work and have a life filled with love.
However, like anything else, those things worth the most to us require our best
and most sincere effort.
Second,
those of us who are married may take a lesson from those who have already gone
before! If they can make it and love one another, so can we (Matt. 5:16)!
Third,
when we observe God’s will for the family and experience love in that marriage,
we also get a picture of Christ’s love for the church! In Ephesians 5:25, we
read, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and
gave himself for it.” Notice the comparison above. In marriage, a husband must
love his wife even as Christ loved
the church! So, when we observe love in a marriage, do we not also get a
picture of the love Christ has for the church? Therefore, when we have true
love in our own marriages, are we, not ourselves living that picture of love
that Christ has for the church? How precious the love of Christ is when He
reveals that we can get a glimpse of it on earth through the love a husband and
wife have for one another!
Fourth, observe love in a marriage so we can see the type of sacrifice
involved in being married! I think back to folks who take care of one another
in their old age (and in their “youth”) and see that pure example of sacrificial
love. In continuing the comparison of Christ and the church, did not Christ
show this in its ultimate form when He died for the church (Eph. 5:25)? If this
is the case, then what sacrifices are we making for our spouses?
Marriage
is a special relationship with special duties. Within marriage, we see
dedication, love, and sacrifice. In marriage, we see the continuation of our
society, and the training of our future leaders. We see the picture of Christ
and the church within the marriage bond. How special this relationship is, and
not one to be taken lightly! To the unmarried people reading this article, I
say, please do not be like the couples who are more prepared for the wedding
than they are the marriage! Prepare now. To the married, I say, look to the
Lord for the answers to your questions and for ways to make even the strongest
marriages stronger (Matt. 7:12).